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| | Humans: the manual. This, as one might expect, is a mess. |
| | ==Communication== |
| | * [https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-i-stopped-trying-to-control-my-partner-and-took-responsibility-for-my-own-happiness/ How I Stopped Trying to Control My Partner and Took Responsibility for My Own Happiness] by [[Hailey Magee]] at [[The Gottman Institute]] |
| | * [https://www.gottman.com/blog/requests-vs-boundaries-vs-ultimatums-the-ultimate-guide/ Requests vs Boundaries vs Ultimatums: The Ultimate Guide] by [[Hailey Magee]] at [[The Gottman Institute]] |
| | ==Mental health== |
| | ===Topics=== |
| | * [[Burnout]] |
| | * [[Hoarding]] |
| | * [[Imposter Syndrome]] |
| | * [[Mourning]] |
| | * [[Relationships and sex and all that]] |
| | * [[Relaxation]] |
| | ===Articles=== |
| | * [https://www.buzzfeed.com/annaborges/therapy-lesson-tweets 19 Therapy Stories That'll Make You Say, "Dang, That's So True"] by [[Anna Borges]] on [[Buzzfeed]] |
| | * [https://adanewmedia.org/2012/11/issue1-nakamura/ Queer Female of Color: The Highest Difficulty Setting There Is? Gaming Rhetoric as Gender Capital] by [[Lisa Nakamura]] on [[Ada: A Journal of Gender, New Media, and Technology]] |
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| == Child Categories == | | ===Tools=== |
| | * [http://philome.la/jace_harr/you-feel-like-shit-an-interactive-self-care-guide/play You feel like shit] <q>This is meant to be an interactive flow chart for people who struggle with self care, executive dysfunction, and/or who have trouble reading internal signals. It's designed to take as much of the weight off of you as possible, so each decision is very easy and doesn't require much judgment.</q> |
| | * [https://vivifychangecatalyst.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/ans-chartv3ltr.jpg This chart of feelings] may help you identify whether you are fine, in fight, flight, or freeze. |
| | ====Where to find a mental health professional==== |
| | * [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Psychology Today] -- use the "find a therapist" link at the top of the page. |
| | * [https://headway.co Headway] |
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| | | ==Why we are wired the way we are== |
| == How to be your best person == | | ===Topics=== |
| | | * [[Cognitive Biases]] |
| * [http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-12043294 A real Good Samaritan] - the story of a train conductor who changed a life | | * [[Learning and making mistakes]] |
| * [http://www.tuscaloosanews.com/news/20091201/we-may-be-born-with-an-urge-to-help/1 We May Be Born With an Urge to Help] | | * [[Motivation]] |
| * [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/dylan-wilbanks/2015-February-16 On being generous] - by Dylan Wilbanks on The Pastry Box. | | * [[Racism]] |
| | ===Articles=== |
| * [https://mobile.twitter.com/kylegriffin1/status/861392326345854977/video/1 Barack Obama talks about courage] | | * [https://mobile.twitter.com/kylegriffin1/status/861392326345854977/video/1 Barack Obama talks about courage] |
| | * [https://livinggraciously.wordpress.com/2016/07/08/careful-there-your-solipsism-is-showing/ Careful there, your solipsism is showing] by [[Livinggraciously]] |
| | * [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/dylan-wilbanks/2015-February-16 On being generous] - by [[Dylan Wilbanks]] on [[The Pastry Box Project]] |
| | * [http://eleganthack.com/breaking-point/ Breaking Point] - on being kind, by [[Christina Wodke]]. |
| | * [[Sexism]] |
| | * [http://www.tuscaloosanews.com/news/20091201/we-may-be-born-with-an-urge-to-help/1 We May Be Born With an Urge to Help] by [[Nicholas Wade]] on [[Tuscaloosanews.com]] |
| | * [https://medium.com/@bjmay/how-26-tweets-broke-my-filter-bubble-88c1527517f3#.s42onkasp How 26 Tweets Broke My Filter Bubble] by [[B.J. May]] on [[Medium]] |
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| == Cognitive Biases == | | ==Physical Health== |
| | | * [[Diet and Nutrition]] |
| Per Wikipedia, [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_bias cognitive biases] are tendencies to think in certain ways that can lead to systemic deviations from a standard of rationality or good judgement.
| | * [[Exercise]] |
| | | ==Social Mores== |
| * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_cognitive_biases Wikipedia's list of cognitive biases]
| | * [https://waitbutwhy.com/2014/04/everything-dont-know-tipping.html Everything you don't know about tipping] |
| * [https://www.facebook.com/glen.welch.142/media_set?set=a.10152809891726504.1073741830.665371503&type=3 Glen Welch's Cognitive Bias Referee]
| | * [https://themorningnews.org/article/how-to-write-a-thank-you-note How to write a thank-you note] |
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| == Imposter syndrome ==
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| * [https://karenmcgrane.com/2014/01/10/i-suck-and-so-do-you/ I suck, and so do you!] by Karen McGrane | |
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| == It's not about you ==
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| [https://livinggraciously.wordpress.com/2016/07/08/careful-there-your-solipsism-is-showing/ Careful there, your solipsism is showing] by Living Graciously | |
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| == Mental Health ==
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| * [http://eleganthack.com/breaking-point/ Breaking Point] - on being kind, by Christina Wodke.
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| == Mourning == | |
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| * [http://www.rd.com/culture/always-go-funeral/?trkid=soc-tw Always go to the funeral] - discusses the place that funerals play in our lives, and how going to funerals is just one part of doing things we don't always want to do because they're good for someone else. | |
| * [http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2014/11/we-say-stupid-things-in-the-freakout-tree/ We say stupid things in the freakout tree] by Ferrett Steinmetz
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| == Learning and Making Mistakes ==
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| [http://scottberkun.com/essays/44-how-to-learn-from-your-mistakes/ How to learn from your mistakes] by Scott Berkun Learning from mistakes requires three things:
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| # Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes
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| # Having the self-confidence to admit to them
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| # Being courageous about making changes
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| [http://celandine13.livejournal.com/33599.html Errors vs Bugs and the End of Stupidity]
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| <blockquote>You can't really describe the accuracy of a buggy program by the percent of questions it gets right; if you ask it to do something different, it could suddenly go from 99% right to 0% right. You can only define its behavior by isolating what the bug does.</blockquote>
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| [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/faruk-ates/2015-february-17 Your comfort zone is overrated] by Faruk Ateş on The Pastry Box
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| <blockquote>In the past, a younger me no doubt would’ve reacted with angry defensiveness to some of these experiences. Nowadays, I am armed with the above two rules, so I let myself be uncomfortable about my mistake. I then asked for an alternative that wasn’t ableist. I accepted it and thanked my critic for keeping me sharp.</blockquote>
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| [http://www.badscience.net/2011/06/kids-who-spot-bullshit-and-the-adults-who-get-upset-about-it/ Kids who spot bullshit, and the adults who get upset about it]
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| <blockquote>People wring their hands over how to make science relevant and accessible, but newspapers hand us one answer on a plate every week, with the barrage of claims on what’s good for you or bad for you: it’s [http://www.jameslindlibrary.org/testing-treatments.html evidence based medicine]. If every school taught the basics – randomised trials, blinding, cohort studies, and why systematic reviews are better than cherrypicking your evidence – it would help everyone navigate the world, and learn some of the most important ideas in the whole of science.</blockquote>
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| [http://www.janinesmusicroom.com/the-rest-of-the-iceberg.html The rest of the iceberg]
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| <blockquote>I once attended a workshop where culture was defined as the “collective programming of the mind” that distinguishes one group of people from another.</blockquote>
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| This article also includes what the author calls the [http://www.janinesmusicroom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/iceberg.jpg Cultural Iceberg] - the tip of the iceberg being the outward trappings of our cultures, and everything below the water being the true bits of culture that occur. [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/georgy-cohen/2015-September-20 A work in progress] by Georgy Cohen on The Pastry Box [http://www.smbc-comics.com/?id=2475&utm_content=buffer5618d&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer Mount Stupid] - by Zach Weiner on Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal
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| == Paradox of choice ==
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| [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Paradox_of_Choice The Paradox of Choice] is the concept that the more choices you give someone, the harder it is for them to overcome anxiety to make a decision. It was introduced by Barry Schwartz in the book [http://amzn.to/2opX8y6 The Paradox of Choice - Why More is Less].
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| * [http://www.marketwatch.com/story/does-choice-make-us-selfish-1306514323397 Does Choice Make Us Selfish?] by Ryan Sager
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| == Relationships and sex and all that ==
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| * [http://www.slate.com/articles/life/food/2011/05/roast_chicken_for_two_a_recipe.single.html Roast Chicken for Two, a Recipe]. Step 1: Preheat your oven. Step 2: Wash chicken. Step 3: Have sex with your partner.
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| * Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal (comic): [http://smbc-comics.com/index.php?id=4055 Mommy, what is sex?]Covers the impact of fun on risk analysis.
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| * [https://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?smid=tw-share&_r=2&referrer= To fall in love with anyone, do this], by Mandy Len Catron at The New York Times. Both discusses brain chemistry and how we ultimately control who we fall in love with.
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| == Relaxation and its necessity ==
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| * [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/sameera-kapila/2015-october-7 Choosing Nothing: Be Kind, Please Unwind] by Sameera Kapila on The Pastry Box
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| == Rewards, motivation, and habit building ==
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| * [http://boingboing.net/2014/11/03/why-your-brain-loves-rewards.html Your brain loves rewards - whether you like it or not] by Nor Eyal
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| * [https://www.usertesting.com/blog/2016/01/21/limited-attention/?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=SocialWarfare Cognitive Psychology for UX: Limited Attention Span] by Spencer Lanoue
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| == Tools ==
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| * [http://sleepyti.me Sleepytime bedtime calculator]
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| == How to be your best person ==
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| | ==Stories to make you feel good== |
| * [http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-12043294 A real Good Samaritan] - the story of a train conductor who changed a life | | * [http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-12043294 A real Good Samaritan] - the story of a train conductor who changed a life |
| * [http://www.tuscaloosanews.com/news/20091201/we-may-be-born-with-an-urge-to-help/1 We May Be Born With an Urge to Help]
| | ==Actual science? Junk science? Probably the latter== |
| * [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/dylan-wilbanks/2015-February-16 On being generous] - by Dylan Wilbanks on The Pastry Box.
| | * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_temperaments Four Temperaments] predating actual psychology |
| * [https://mobile.twitter.com/kylegriffin1/status/861392326345854977/video/1 Barack Obama talks about courage]
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| == Cognitive Biases == | |
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| Per Wikipedia, [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_bias cognitive biases] are tendencies to think in certain ways that can lead to systemic deviations from a standard of rationality or good judgement.
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| * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_cognitive_biases Wikipedia's list of cognitive biases]
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| * [https://www.facebook.com/glen.welch.142/media_set?set=a.10152809891726504.1073741830.665371503&type=3 Glen Welch's Cognitive Bias Referee]
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| == Imposter syndrome ==
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| * [https://karenmcgrane.com/2014/01/10/i-suck-and-so-do-you/ I suck, and so do you!] by Karen McGrane
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| == It's not about you ==
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| [https://livinggraciously.wordpress.com/2016/07/08/careful-there-your-solipsism-is-showing/ Careful there, your solipsism is showing] by Living Graciously
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| == Mental Health ==
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| * [http://eleganthack.com/breaking-point/ Breaking Point] - on being kind, by Christina Wodke.
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| == Mourning ==
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| * [http://www.rd.com/culture/always-go-funeral/?trkid=soc-tw Always go to the funeral] - discusses the place that funerals play in our lives, and how going to funerals is just one part of doing things we don't always want to do because they're good for someone else.
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| * [http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2014/11/we-say-stupid-things-in-the-freakout-tree/ We say stupid things in the freakout tree] by Ferrett Steinmetz
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| == Learning and Making Mistakes ==
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| [http://scottberkun.com/essays/44-how-to-learn-from-your-mistakes/ How to learn from your mistakes] by Scott Berkun Learning from mistakes requires three things:
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| # Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes
| |
| # Having the self-confidence to admit to them
| |
| # Being courageous about making changes
| |
| | |
| [http://celandine13.livejournal.com/33599.html Errors vs Bugs and the End of Stupidity]
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| <blockquote>You can't really describe the accuracy of a buggy program by the percent of questions it gets right; if you ask it to do something different, it could suddenly go from 99% right to 0% right. You can only define its behavior by isolating what the bug does.</blockquote>
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| [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/faruk-ates/2015-february-17 Your comfort zone is overrated] by Faruk Ateş on The Pastry Box
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| <blockquote>In the past, a younger me no doubt would’ve reacted with angry defensiveness to some of these experiences. Nowadays, I am armed with the above two rules, so I let myself be uncomfortable about my mistake. I then asked for an alternative that wasn’t ableist. I accepted it and thanked my critic for keeping me sharp.</blockquote>
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| [http://www.badscience.net/2011/06/kids-who-spot-bullshit-and-the-adults-who-get-upset-about-it/ Kids who spot bullshit, and the adults who get upset about it]
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| <blockquote>People wring their hands over how to make science relevant and accessible, but newspapers hand us one answer on a plate every week, with the barrage of claims on what’s good for you or bad for you: it’s [http://www.jameslindlibrary.org/testing-treatments.html evidence based medicine]. If every school taught the basics – randomised trials, blinding, cohort studies, and why systematic reviews are better than cherrypicking your evidence – it would help everyone navigate the world, and learn some of the most important ideas in the whole of science.</blockquote>
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| [http://www.janinesmusicroom.com/the-rest-of-the-iceberg.html The rest of the iceberg]
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| <blockquote>I once attended a workshop where culture was defined as the “collective programming of the mind” that distinguishes one group of people from another.</blockquote>
| |
| This article also includes what the author calls the [http://www.janinesmusicroom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/iceberg.jpg Cultural Iceberg] - the tip of the iceberg being the outward trappings of our cultures, and everything below the water being the true bits of culture that occur. [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/georgy-cohen/2015-September-20 A work in progress] by Georgy Cohen on The Pastry Box [http://www.smbc-comics.com/?id=2475&utm_content=buffer5618d&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer Mount Stupid] - by Zach Weiner on Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal
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| == Paradox of choice ==
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| [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Paradox_of_Choice The Paradox of Choice] is the concept that the more choices you give someone, the harder it is for them to overcome anxiety to make a decision. It was introduced by Barry Schwartz in the book [http://amzn.to/2opX8y6 The Paradox of Choice - Why More is Less]. | |
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| * [http://www.marketwatch.com/story/does-choice-make-us-selfish-1306514323397 Does Choice Make Us Selfish?] by Ryan Sager
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| == Relationships and sex and all that ==
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| * [http://www.slate.com/articles/life/food/2011/05/roast_chicken_for_two_a_recipe.single.html Roast Chicken for Two, a Recipe]. Step 1: Preheat your oven. Step 2: Wash chicken. Step 3: Have sex with your partner.
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| * Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal (comic): [http://smbc-comics.com/index.php?id=4055 Mommy, what is sex?]Covers the impact of fun on risk analysis.
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| * [https://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?smid=tw-share&_r=2&referrer= To fall in love with anyone, do this], by Mandy Len Catron at The New York Times. Both discusses brain chemistry and how we ultimately control who we fall in love with.
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| == Relaxation and its necessity ==
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| * [https://the-pastry-box-project.net/sameera-kapila/2015-october-7 Choosing Nothing: Be Kind, Please Unwind] by Sameera Kapila on The Pastry Box
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| == Rewards, motivation, and habit building ==
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| * [http://boingboing.net/2014/11/03/why-your-brain-loves-rewards.html Your brain loves rewards - whether you like it or not] by Nor Eyal
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| * [https://www.usertesting.com/blog/2016/01/21/limited-attention/?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=SocialWarfare Cognitive Psychology for UX: Limited Attention Span] by Spencer Lanoue
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| == Tools ==
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| * [http://sleepyti.me Sleepytime bedtime calculator]
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